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Choosing Your Resolve: Taking Control of Your Thoughts for a Better Life

Writer's picture: Emmanuel DanielEmmanuel Daniel

Imagine walking into a party. You’re excited because it’s been ages since you last saw your friend, and you’re looking forward to reconnecting.


As you scan the room, you finally spot them entering the door. You move closer, anticipating a warm exchange. But then, they walk right past you without even saying hello— no acknowledgment, no smile, nothing.


How would you feel in that moment?

Choosing Your Resolve: Taking Control of Your Thoughts for a Better Life
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Your emotional reaction might depend entirely on the story you tell yourself about what just happened. If your initial thought is, “How rude! I thought we were friends,” you might feel angry or disappointed, potentially leading to avoidance or even confrontation.


Alternatively, you might think, “Maybe they didn’t see me,” which could prompt you to simply walk up and say hello. On the other hand, thoughts like, “Did I do something wrong? Did I upset them?” might stir anxiety and self-doubt. Or, you could interpret their behavior with empathy, thinking, “This isn’t like them. Maybe something’s bothering them,” and check on their well-being.


The same situation, but vastly different outcomes—all driven by the way you interpret it.


This is the incredible power of thoughts. They shape our emotions, influence our behavior, and ultimately determine how we navigate life.


At The Harvest Clinic, we believe in helping people understand the role thoughts play in shaping their experiences and empowering them to take control.



The Dual Nature of Thoughts

Thoughts are fascinating because they function in two ways:

Choosing Your Resolve: Taking Control of Your Thoughts for a Better Life

  1. As an experience:

    Sometimes, thoughts arise automatically, almost like a radio station playing in the background. You might be cooking, driving, or walking, and suddenly, your mind is flooded with random memories, ideas, or worries. These thoughts pop up without your intention, and often, they reflect past experiences, learned beliefs, or fears.


  2. As a behavior:

    At other times, you can consciously choose what to think about. For example, if I ask you to picture a pink elephant walking down the street, you can intentionally bring that image to mind.


This dual nature means that while we sometimes passively experience thoughts, we also have the ability to direct them. The key is learning how to balance these two modes and recognizing when to lead your thoughts rather than be led by them.

When Thoughts Dictate Behavior

One of the most common challenges people face is allowing their thoughts to control their actions. Consider these scenarios:


  • You wake up in the morning, and your mind says, “I’m not a morning person. I can’t be bothered.” You believe this thought, so you skip your workout or procrastinate on tasks.


  • You’re heading to a social event, and your mind starts whispering, “What if people judge me? What if I say the wrong thing?” These doubts might lead you to cancel plans or avoid interacting with others.


This pattern of thought-driven behavior can contribute to a range of mental health struggles, from anxiety to low self-esteem. Many people live as if their thoughts are absolute truths rather than fleeting mental events.



The Concept of Resolve: Choosing Thoughts on Purpose

So how can we break free from the grip of automatic thoughts? The answer lies in cultivating resolve.


Having a resolve means making a conscious decision to adopt a particular perspective—one that aligns with your values and is workable for your life.


Example: The Challenging Friendship


Imagine you have a friend who is inconsistent in their behavior. Sometimes, they’re supportive and present, but other times, they seem distant or unresponsive. Without resolve, your feelings and actions might fluctuate based on their behavior: some days you feel motivated to reconnect, while other days you feel hurt and want to give up on the friendship.


But if you take a moment to reflect on your values; perhaps loyalty, compassion, and kindness, you can decide how you want to approach the friendship, regardless of external circumstances. Maybe you choose to communicate openly about your feelings or set boundaries that protect your well-being.


This is the power of resolve: it helps you stay anchored to your principles rather than being tossed around by the whims of your thoughts.


Four Key Points About Thoughts

  1. Thoughts shape your feelings and actions. The way you interpret a situation can significantly influence your emotional response and behavior.


  2. Thoughts often arise automatically. These unintentional thoughts are shaped by past experiences, beliefs, and fears.


  3. You can choose your thoughts. While you can’t control every thought that pops into your mind, you can intentionally focus on perspectives that serve you.


  4. Unhelpful thoughts often fuel suffering. Many mental health struggles stem from taking unhelpful or critical thoughts too seriously, allowing them to dictate behavior.



Practical Steps to Lead Your Thoughts


  1. Notice your thoughts: Start by observing the stories your mind tells you. Practice mindfulness to create space between your thoughts and your reactions.


  2. Challenge unhelpful thoughts: Ask yourself, “Is this thought true? Is it helpful?” Replace negative interpretations with more balanced ones.


  3. Commit to your values: Identify what matters most to you and use those values as a guide for how you respond to challenging situations.


  4. Practice thinking on purpose: Just as you can choose to focus your eyes, you can choose to focus your mind. Make it a habit to adopt perspectives that align with your goals and values.



Here is a video on Choosing a Resolve


Final Thoughts: Becoming the Leader of Your Mind

Our thoughts can either lead us or be led by us. By practicing intentional thinking, we can break free from the automatic narratives that hold us back. Like directing your eyes to focus on a specific point in a chaotic scene, you can train your mind to focus on perspectives that empower you.


At The Harvest Clinic, we believe in helping individuals develop this skill as part of a broader journey toward mental well-being. Whether you’re struggling with anxiety, low mood, or simply feeling stuck, learning to lead your thoughts can unlock new possibilities for growth and fulfillment.


Remember: You are not your thoughts. You are the context in which they arise; the observer, the chooser, the one in control. Let’s work together to help you take charge of your mind and live the life you deserve.






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